My wife wants to be a part of my startup. I don’t want that. We have fights. Is there a way I can defuse the situation?

Have you tried breaking it down by options?

If you choose to include her on a full-time basis, what are the ramifications to the company, relationship, culture…etc.

If you choose to include her on a part-time basis, will that eventually lead to full-time anyway?

If you choose to keep her excluded, my guess is as your wife, she already owns 50% of your shares anyway. Plus, what would result in your relationship?

Sounds to me like you don’t want her there, but are having little choice. If you are firm about keeping her out, look for statistics online that suggest it will be a disaster for the company. Otherwise, you’re going to look like the bad guy.

In either scenario, doing your homework on all situations and research would be a wise move. Next, have a serious business and relationship conversation with her. You are partners for a reason. Right?

Thats a simple human nature competition.
If you let her in, you would probably send the company to a sooner hell.
if not, you would end up with divorce, or permanent slavery.
anyway, when things like this come up that’s a bad signal.
-Trust me! That’s absolutely not your wife fault. 99% your fault.
Drink whiskey with ice, and keep it cool to see what happens.
The key is to not panic.
Don’t show this message to your wife.

PS. Ladies who are reading this, sorry! I’m your fan. Just have to be transparent with the dude.

Show her some stats about how it will affect your relationship and company negatively. There’s no win.

Don’t do it, relationships and business are a terrible mix in my experience.