Is it really that hard to respect someone?
So… I’ve been at my startup for quite a while. I’ve spent years studying, researching, and when I felt confident in my success, I took the plunge – full time, head first.
IT was the BIGGEST mistake of my life.
Since starting my own company, I have found that:
– If you’re a minority woman, you will always be questioned. Yet, if you have a man pitch the same thing, people care and listen.
– If you’re a minority woman, you won’t be funded because you will always be a third class citizen
– If you’re a minority woman, you can pitch with the best sales people, but you’re constantly told to show your heart because no one else gives a shit when you’re talking about making money.
– If you’re a minority woman, you can pitch with the best sales people, but you’re constantly told to just talk about the money, but no one seems to care or believe it’s there even when you show them the same bullshit that your counterparts have to show.
– If you’re a minority woman, instead of people asking you how they can help, they copy you and expect you to come running to them to join their team.
– If you’re a minority woman, instead of offering you a contract to bring money into your company, they will offer you a job.
– If you’re a minority woman, you can’t even find a a technical co-founder smart enough to pilage the government for funding with you.
– If you’re a minority woman, you will never be taken seriously.
– If you’re a minority woman, you get other women who stand in the way of your success because they think it means they can’t succeed.
– If you’re a minority woman… you will be spit on by your own people who will tell you to only hire minorities in the same group as you, even when you know you’re not racist enough to hire someone based on the color of their skin… and then, they wonder why there is no progress.
– If you’re a minority woman, you can be exceptionally bright, but you will never be bright enough to be entrusted with funding.
Which brings me to why they won’t make it…. And sadly, why most women (regardless of skin color) won’t make it…
I have worked my ass off, I’ve lost weight, sleep, money, time… and I finally get a “meeting” with a VC rep from a major corporation. At the end of this meeting, I was propositioned. I turned this person down. Now, this person has decided to turn his back on me, rather than giving me the respect I deserve. Between people who aren’t in my industry, suddenly shifting their business plans to compete with me and knowing I’m going broke because everyone is excited about the red oceans, I’m happily taking on the blue ocean… I’ve had enough.
Do they even know what it’s like to start a business? Do they know all the hurdles you have to jump? All the sleepless nights? The abuse you encounter?
And then… the icing on the cake. I had a call with a MAJOR client. But when I saw that this person was obviously no longer going to help because I wouldn’t date them, I broke down in tears. I missed my call. I missed an opportunity that could have changed things for the better… I’m done. I have to finish all my obligations, but I’m done… I’m out.
I hope it was worth it.